Getting used to Sufferings!


Human beings, the most fragile and the most powerful creature. We have got a very flexible nature. We are a creature with highest degree of tolerance. We survive in cruel winter and we manage to make our way through scorching heat of summer. We get used to sufferings and without even knowing, they become part of our lives. In Pakistan, daily 8 hour load-shedding feels terrible in the beginning but then we get used to it and if some day a miracle happens and there is no power breakup, we feel as if something is missing. We ask each other “Is everything OK?”
“Ghalib” says in his poetry that calamity becomes nothing if you get used to it. I have suffered to such a great extent that I don’t feel anything now. In fact he explained it so well that there is no need of further explanation.
But is this ability to mold yourself according to circumstances and environment good for you? I have two opinions about it and you will find them contradictory. At the end, ball will be in your court.
First one is that getting used to troubles is a good thing. It makes you immune to sufferings and makes you able to survive in your circumstances. It takes away your tears and makes you able to smile in pain. Ans in a way it makes you strong too. When you get used to big troubles, little worries don’t bother you.
Second opinion is it’s a very bad thing as it snatches the ability to resist from you. Others make you suffer and you let them do it. You don’t complain. You don’t resist. You never even think about the possibility of changing the circumstances. You get used to compromises. It makes you permanently silent. You never raise slogans of freedom. It makes you forever slave and forever miserable.
The important thing is how you utilize your ability to be stretched and molded. You are the one who is to decide when you have to get yourself molded to the circumstances and when you need to change your circumstances. Its all up to you. You are driver of your own life so you have to take turns wisely. Don’t let others fool you and make you a forever miserable person, and don’t let your circumstances make you a forever crying and  complaining person.

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